“And when at last you find someone to whom you feel you can pour out your soul, you stop in shock at the words you utter—they are so rusty, so ugly, so meaningless and feeble from being kept in the small cramped dark inside you so long.” - Sylvia Plath
I always knew I would write my own wedding vows. My background in writing and performing made me look forward to the task, seeing it as an artistic challenge rather than a burden. I started dreaming up the words I would speak, and would get struck by creative lightning riding on my scooter, pulling over the side of the road to take note. My ceremony was intentionally very emotional and in some ways somber. During the reception, Emile’s family would approach me to say they felt like they knew more about me after the ceremony. That was certainly my intention; to connect. Here is some insight into my process, perhaps it will help you!